The Art Of Falling

Life is hard, y’all.

We grow up and we’re supposed to work hard to “make something” of ourselves; to somehow bring order to the chaos of life. And once we’ve done that, maybe we’ll find that ever-elusive work/life balance…


Real talk: I’m sick of the work/life balance myth.

Work and life are not two separate things. Work is a part of life, not it’s opposite.

I propose we try a different balancing act: Finding work/play balance in our approach to life.


Now, if you’re anything like me, you might be “gravitationally challenged;” You might have a tendency to tip too far in one direction or the other in your search for balance; You might fall down.


Falling is scary.

Falling softly and safely takes practice.

But falling is not synonymous with failure.


A teacher once told me that to find balance one must be willing to fall. Finding balance means falling constantly. “Balance” is really an illusion of stillness; a state of stability created by falling in several directions at once.


Play teaches us the art of falling -and failing- gracefully. It teaches us the art of finding balance.


When children play, they fall. More often than not, they get up and they keep playing, often without missing a beat. If falling meant failure, the game would be over… and what fun would that be? To succeed at play, one does not need to win; One simply needs to keep playing.


The bad news: Falling down doesn’t stop when we grow up.

The good news: Play doesn’t have to either!


Play rewards us for taking risks. It encourages us to get up and try again.

Play makes us resilient: It teaches us how to protect ourselves as we confront chaos over and over again; Because falling only feels like failure if you’re focused on your bruised body (or heart, or ego) rather than on the love of the game.


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